Hi guys! If you follow my blog you know who I am; if you don’t, hi! I’m Lorien!
I’m writing this today to address something that’s been nagging at the back of my mind a bit lately, and that is ~*self image*~
For those that don’t know, I’ve struggled with a lot of self image stuff throughout my life! I’ve always had a really hard time liking who I am, what I do, what I look like. It’s been a persistent problem for me through the years, and it still comes back now and then on my bad days.
But I realized something a year or two back that’s helped a whole lot—pretty much everyone struggles with self image problems!
I’ve been getting a lot of asks, on my personal and on my Sollux blog, from sweet anons who call me pretty or attractive (and gosh thank you wow you guys are all really sweet gosh gosh), but then they follow up by “I wish I could be as pretty as you,” “I wish I could aspire to be as attractive as you are,” etc etc.
Oh my gosh. I’m absolutely flattered you find me attractive (seriously it means a lot ajfkld;ajfkdl;a more keyboard smashes and incoherent sounds)—
But you are gorgeous too! I don’t need to see you to know that. Society has enforced this “”“”“what must be attractive”“”“” norm on us that from movies, posters on the subway, tv commercials, blah blah blah you get it.
And I’m not saying I meet that—in fact, I’d prefer if I didn’t? But because of what society has laid out for us, we tend to focus on our flaws instead of our beauty? Sure, my nose is kind of big. My eyebrows aren’t thin. My teeth are crooked.
You don’t need to look like anyone else to be beautiful. If you aspire to be like me, I’m incredibly flattered, oh my gosh uwu
But—You don’t need to be like anyone else to be beautiful. I want you to look at yourself right now, and find something you like—I know you can. You’ll do that every day, and you’ll find that you actually quite like the shape of your eyebrows, the color of your eyes, the way your hair falls, the shape of your lips. You know why? Cause you’re beautiful.
I’m not the best with words, really. But you guys, I want you to know how wonderful you are. Seriously.